HURT Can't Tell "YOU" How to HEAL

INSPECT While speaking with a few people today. I felt like it was a good conversation to have. The tag line of the post was " (Hurt People) Hurt People! So why do we keep connecting to Hurt People? That is a very real thing. As we all do, I wrote my response but also looked through the comments. The answers ranged from because that's what we were called to do to I dont know. This is something that needs to be discussed. Since this is a blog of INtriging perSPECTive, we have to look at the mind set of it all. When we hurt it is our reaction to that hurt that is key to finding out who we are, and also gives way to who we will become. People often say, oh that didn't bother me, but dont realize they never had a plan to deal with the pain, so as you encounter it again your response will reflect your measurement on the specturm of growth. It is in that critical moment that you would have hoped that you healed properly meaning you can face the same sort of pain and not feal it like you did, but in turn offer a protective response that ensures you stay intact. With unchecked pain responses you have to think, will you become damaged to the point where you lack responses of compassion for others. Will you become guarded and put up several walls so that you are no longer vunearable, or will you absorb it for positivity and say well this did not help, and it definitly did not contribute to my well being,so lets come up with a different plan for the next time this type of hurt is encounterd. Yeah, I know it is easier said then done, but not to far fetched to embrace as your new standard. CHECK YOUR HURT Lets look at the pain response. You have been offended, this is the moment you have to decide which road you will take. It is strange to think about slowing down your response at that moment. People have the natural fight or flight that tells you to react now or forever lose your edge. If you are not in any immediate danger of a physical retaliation then you absoluety can slow your response time. Use the moment to take in all the information so that you can form a well rounded call to action. What is this pain/ hurt telling me to feal. What is it trying to get me to learn. How can I move on from this, and it not happen again. I know people would say, it depends on the pain as to whether I can get back to my regulary scheduled programming or not. Also i do understand that pain response is indiviualized so the uniqness will have to include yourself and your own attributes. All I am saying that if we can get to a point that we can slow the responce to be able to take a through look and therefore respond with growth and not failure. This is a life long question that I am not sure will ever be answered, but a least we can start considering that we all could benefit from learning our own patterns of offense to be able to curve future potential destruction of our selves or others. WHATS THE POINT Looking at ones self is an essential element in becoming the best versions of ourselves we can. We are meant to help and inspire others to be better then they were the day before. INSPECT your own personality traits and see how turning situations that are seemingly out of your control to something that encourages you to be in charge and therefore deliver a healthy verdict. How does one become in charge of their behavior response. Well in my opinon, YOU CHOSE TO BE!!! Please comment about your perspective of Response to Pain After Hurt.